School dating relationships
Tanisha Bagley is no stranger to teen dating violence as she experienced it firsthand in her adolescent years. These questions are helpful for more than teenage relationships.
In fact, her abusive relationship began at the age of 15 when her high school sweetheart started physically tormenting and psychologically abusing her. Answering “ There are extreme consequences associated with unhealthy and abusive relationships. I've seen grown adults making the same mistakes over and over again.
Once when I refused, he threw me down a flight of stairs. I remember, he use to cut me all over my body with a knife.
If I so much as spoke with another guy, he would hit me.
Tanisha explained her fear of being in the abusive relationship, “He knew my every move, who I was with, where I was going, and who my friends were. According to the CDC, teens who are in abusive relationships are more susceptible to depression and anxiety, unhealthy risk-taking behaviors (e.g., drug and alcohol use), self-harm and suicidal ideation. You matter, your life matters, living a happy healthy life matters. We need to teach our children about abuse and abusive people early.
He would threaten me, and tell me if I ever left him he would kill me. Plus, teens who are in abusive relationships in high school are at a greater risk of being in abusive relationships in college. Love yourself enough to get the help you need to get out of the abusive relationship. If you are the parent of a teen who is in an abusive relationship - be supportive. Abusive relationships are complicated and what your teen needs most is your unconditional love and support.”Vagi, K.
I began to believe him and..the words became my reality. Does your partner force you to do things you don't want to do?
Maybe your child envisions texting with someone they’re too afraid to talk to in the hallway at school. Before you freak out, calmly ask, “What does it mean to date someone at your age?
- What if my child starts on a path toward physical intimacy?
What if he or she isn’t mature enough to know how to say no?
One time he punched me so hard he gave me a black eye only because he thought I knew another a guy. Because of the abusive relationship, I didn’t have a good high school experience.” Coming from a family where intimate partner violence was prevalent, Tanisha continued to live in the vicious abusive cycle, and she eventually married her abuser.
The abuse continued in her relationship until one day, she decided to break free.