Moms and dads for education to stop teen dating abuse
Children become the “parents” to their parents and younger siblings.
These kids are referred to as “parentified children.” Indeed, these children do such things as: dressing the younger kids, house cleaning, preparing lunch and dinner for the entire family, caring for and supervising the younger children and, acting as parents to their own parents.
Consequently, one of the children take on that responsibility, not only caring for their siblings but for their helpless parent as well. For example, some of them parentify their own children, visiting upon them the same cruel burdens that they were once asked to carry.
In one case, an adult has described how she, as a child, worried about her mother getting home safely because she knew how drunk she could get after work. Being the parentified child is a lonely experience because they have no parent to turn to for help and guidance.
For children, the greatest fear is of being abandoned which it is why it’s so important to give them that assurance.
Dating abuse is a pattern of destructive behaviors used to exert power and control over a dating partner.
In one type of family, the parent uses the child as a confidant.
Hollywood portrays these youngsters as being very cute because they are precocious and mature beyond their years.
Their adult behavior and wisdom is looked upon as entertaining because they seem to have naivete combined with these characteristics far beyond their years.
Once again, it is left to the child to become the surrogate parent for the siblings and for the household.
Then, there are families characterized by having “boundary problems.” Human organizations and relationships have clearly set boundaries in which certain role expectations are assigned and fulfilled by appropriate people.